Why ask the wife?

[sancho57]

My wife is awesome she doesnt bother with me buying tools.

At one time she did when we first got married 16 years ago.

She was complaining to a friend of hers about me spending time working in the garage and spending money on tools.

Her friend told her that there was a lot worse things I could be spending my money on and alot worse places I could be spending my time at.

Just think about it.

She listened to her friend and thought.

She never stops me from buying tools.

Also I love taking her to a woodworking show.

She wanders off by her self and runs back to me with a honey you need one of the these..

The last time she did that I went home with a $500 router table.

She also talked me into buying a complete multimaster kit..

So no worries here about tools guys.

 

[Ken Nagrod]

[thumbs up] to your wife.  Hold onto her!

 

[peter halle]

Big Honu set the stage for this:  Just for some levity:

 

[Kodi Crescent]

My wife is awesome she doesnt bother with me buying tools.

She wanders off by her self and runs back to me with a honey you need one of the these..

The last time she did that I went home with a $500 router table.

She also talked me into buying a complete multimaster kit..

So no worries here about tools guys.

Does she ever tell you you need some tool and then you fight about it because you don't want it?

 

[Holzhacker]

I don't discuss tool purchases or ask permission. That's an unacceptable arrangement. Tools are for work that make money and pay the bills. That car, vacation, dinner all paid for by the use of efficient tools. However, I don't piss away money on crappy tools or buy tools at times when it would be financially destabilizing. Because I'm not an idiot its a non-issue. I know guys who will buy tools 3 days before some anniversary or family birthday, run short of funds and be in hot water, Stupid.

 

[MTRANGER]

I am fortunate, my wife has seen the Green light.  She has been using my sanders to refinish an Oak table he Uncle gave her.  Heck, I got to buy the RTS 400 because of it.  I tell he it is her sander but we all know who's it is.

 

[Wood_Junkie]

From the start of our marriage my wife and I have had an arrangement of “our money”, “your money”, and “my money”.

Paychecks go into our joint account, and the joint account pays for all the various bills, clothes, food, investments, savings, etc etc etc. 
We have auto-transfers setup monthly to move our “allowance” to our personal accounts (we just maintained them even since our dating days). 

Those are our “fun funds”, for buying gifts for one other, or buying things that are personal choices.  It’s not a lot, but enough to buy something decent… or let accumulate for a larger purchase.
So we can save up for bigger things, like a girl’s weekend away or a Domino, etc.

The deal is, if its “my money” then there’s no conversation necessary or critique (and vice versa).  I may hate the weird boots she bought, and she might eyeball the blue and green FOGTainers, but no one gets riled up.  We both have appreciated the respectful freedom it allows.

I'm a hobby tool user (and our own home renovations).  If these were tools for making income, it'd be a different story.  Then again, we'd be able to expense the tool costs from our taxes.  =/

 

[Alan m]

I may hate the weird boots she bought, and she might eyeball the blue and green FOGTainers,

so true [big grin] [wink]

 

[Brice Burrell]

....Those are our “fun funds”, for buying gifts for one other, or buying things that are personal choices.  It’s not a lot, but enough to buy something decent… or let accumulate for a larger purchase.
So we can save up for bigger things, like a girl’s weekend away or a Domino, etc.....

Your wife lets you have a girls weekend away?? [eek] [big grin]

 

[Wood_Junkie]

....Those are our “fun funds”, for buying gifts for one other, or buying things that are personal choices.  It’s not a lot, but enough to buy something decent… or let accumulate for a larger purchase.
So we can save up for bigger things, like a girl’s weekend away or a Domino, etc.....

Your wife lets you have a girls weekend away?? [eek] [big grin]

Yeah.  Dontcha all have a harem??    [tongue]

 

[Kodi Crescent]

From the start of our marriage my wife and I have had an arrangement of “our money”, “your money”, and “my money”.

I asked about this concept in our pre-Cana classes.  They didn't think it was a good idea.  But if it works for you, then great!

 

[joraft]

From the start of our marriage my wife and I have had an arrangement of “our money”, “your money”, and “my money”.

I asked about this concept in our pre-Cana classes.  They didn't think it was a good idea. 

I have to agree, I like "my money", "my money", and "my money" much better.  [big grin]

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[Wood_Junkie]

From the start of our marriage my wife and I have had an arrangement of “our money”, “your money”, and “my money”.

I asked about this concept in our pre-Cana classes.  They didn't think it was a good idea. 

I have to agree, I like "my money", "my money", and "my money" much better.  [big grin]

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HA!  I think the commonly found situation is 'her money', 'her money'...    [wink]

 

[sancho57]

My wife is awesome she doesnt bother with me buying tools.

She wanders off by her self and runs back to me with a honey you need one of the these..

The last time she did that I went home with a $500 router table.

She also talked me into buying a complete multimaster kit..

So no worries here about tools guys.

Does she ever tell you you need some tool and then you fight about it because you don't want it?

Kinda sorta. I really didnt want the router table but I got it anyway and it does a good job. But I still wanted another one. She did insist I needed it..So well I got it.

 

[Kodi Crescent]

I have to agree, I like "my money", "my money", and "my money" much better.  [big grin]

I think I heard something about splitting expenses based on the percentage each contributes to overall household income.  So if you made 70% of the household income, and she made 30%, you paid 70% of the bills, and she paid the other 30%.  The rest of your income was "your" money and the rest of her income was "her" money.  They didn't think that was a great idea, either.
I thought it was great at the time.  My wife didn't like it though.  We didn't do it.

 

[Mavrik]

From the start of our marriage my wife and I have had an arrangement of “our money”, “your money”, and “my money”.

Paychecks go into our joint account, and the joint account pays for all the various bills, clothes, food, investments, savings, etc etc etc. 
We have auto-transfers setup monthly to move our “allowance” to our personal accounts (we just maintained them even since our dating days). 

Those are our “fun funds”, for buying gifts for one other, or buying things that are personal choices.  It’s not a lot, but enough to buy something decent… or let accumulate for a larger purchase.
So we can save up for bigger things, like a girl’s weekend away or a Domino, etc.

The deal is, if its “my money” then there’s no conversation necessary or critique (and vice versa).  I may hate the weird boots she bought, and she might eyeball the blue and green FOGTainers, but no one gets riled up.  We both have appreciated the respectful freedom it allows.

I'm a hobby tool user (and our own home renovations).  If these were tools for making income, it'd be a different story.  Then again, we'd be able to expense the tool costs from our taxes.   =/

This sounds like a great system.
Wish we'd done it this way.