All the ABS/PVC edgebanding I've ever bought here in the UK/ EU has come with a primer already on the back...!!?? I've never needed to rough the back up of any .....
I've never tried 3mm but I regularly use 1mm and 2mm in my Conturo with no issues getting it to stick.
Have you tried the "Tear Off" test on an edge you have applied...? This will tell you how well your edging is adhering. Once you've removed the edging, you should have 50%/50% of the adhesive stuck to the edging and the board.