Thank to everyone who replied to this post. You were all very helpful.
I got my hands on some Old Country Cleaner. Nowhere on the bottle does it mention the ammonia concentration, however Tim said 10% so let's go with that since it is a household product. I tried the wipe on technique and fuming.
The results of wiping it were almost immediate (of course wetting wood does darken it). After about an hour it was dry to touch and a little darker so I did a second coat. Darker still of course. After drying overnight lighter but still noticeably darker than my control piece. I now have a good handle on the wipe on technique. Quite controllable I think.
At the same time I had a piece in a large plastic covered bin. I left it outside by the way, but with care and in a dedicated (spare) room I could have left it inside. My container was well sealed and this is household concentration but warning!!! still strong and therefore dangerous.
After about three hours (bedtime) I had to have a little peek. Much to my surprise because this is a low concentration solution, my piece was noticeably darker!
I checked again after 12 hours, darker still, after 18 hours I took it out and left it for about 4 hours. It was quite dark at this point by the way.
The 4 hours is because... I expected some grain raising with the wipe on application, what I did not expect was a dampening of the wood and slight raising during the fuming!, so I let it dry. Lightly sanded with 320. No real loss of color.
I think this was because this is a water based product. Interesting!
Having said all this I think my project will be left natural. The fuming (and yes I put some finish on) seemed to reduce the natural radiance of the white oak (quartered of course). The finer I sanded the more the natural beauty of the oak came through and for this project at least I can't bear to change that.
And speaking of sanding I just have to have one more little Rant (and/or Rave) about my sander. I will probably own an ETS (or three) simply because they are Festools. Yup I got the bug bad! But I find it difficult if not impossible to believe that anything can make a better finish than my RO 90 hooked up to a CT 26 (Rubin to 180, Brilliant 2 to 320). What a sweet tool, blows me away every time... period.
Thanks for reading. See ya soon.
B