The RO90 was my first Festool Sander. ( just bought 3 more but have not used them yet....)
I found the same as many, while in the learning mode, I found it very helpful to turn the sander down in Rotex mode. The first job I did with the sander, was to remove many paint jobs worth of paint from door frames in my house. I found the sander jumping as well.....had a read on this forum, got some tips and once I turned the vac and the sander down I found it much easier to manage...even overhead. The Delta pad is very easy to handle, as well in RO mode I can run the sander full out. Perhaps try slowing the sander down while you use it for the first while. As far as breaking the sander in, I didn't do that so can't comment either way.....I did use it for a few hours cleaning up a pile of plywood that was given to me before starting on the door frames, but only in RO mode.
Hope this helps.
Greg