I know there are many excellent dealers out there, who go above and beyond;
it's that they don't choose to active on the FOG; hence members on the FOG are less likely to tout their virtues. Now, why some dealers don't avail themselves of the many benefits of being active here, frankly I don't understand, it but that's their choice.
As regards some of the larger franchise WW stores that are also Festool dealers, etc., I don't want to speak for them too much, but again, I know there are plenty that are knowledgeable, friendly and well stocked. I'll give a shout out to the Woodcraft in Norwalk, CT. The owner, John, knows his stuff, does lots of demos - (last I heard) and has been doing so for a long time.
Me, the "Godfather himself?" Hey, I may have to contact the Italian American Anti-Defamation League, founded by Joe Columbo, the original boss (long deceased) of the Colombo crime family.

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Kidding aside, the better dealers (and again, there are plenty) are not there to take your money. They provide guidance - if need be, post sale support, treat the customers as you would like to be treated, etc. No one is perfect all the time and I have dropped the ball on occasion, but at least that's the goal. It's a worthy goal and made easier by that fact that the tools can generally speak for themselves. And don't forget, Festool's support.
Back to the OP, I'm not making excuses for poor service or the lack of proper stock levels by a particular dealer, perhaps Festool needs to better insure/monitor that there are some type of dealer minimal stock levels at any given time. Again, maybe giving a call before taking that trip over, may lessen your (and others) frustration level.
Bob